it all began when...
I became a mom. The experience of having my first child was exhilarating . I remember all of the emotions that flooded me the day when I had my daughter. I thought to myself, "she's perfect!" Almost 15 months later, I had that same experience with my son. In my eyes, they couldn't be more perfect!
Almost 10 years later...
I am seeing that even though I see them as perfect (in my eyes) there is no such thing as a perfect kid. They each come with amazing talents, skills, and abilities that are God-given and unique to them. They also come into this world with a sinful nature and have to be taught right from wrong.
Maybe you're a better mom than I am, but I do find myself at times tempted to judge my own flesh and blood. It's hard when I see things that don't measure up to "my" standard of "perfection"... of what I think they should be, look, and act like.
The standard for our children should be that of the two greatest commandments. They should grow up loving God and loving people. You see, their personality, the traits and characteristics that are unique to them may make us feel uncomfortable at times, but that doesn't mean that they are wrong for being "who" they are, unless what they are doing is out of disrespect and out of character.
If steward and channeled correctly, the things that make us parents feel uncomfortable about our child's personality can become a major strength in their years to come. It is up to us to teach them.
My daughter is a very loving and compassionate girl. At times, it is very difficult for me when she is compelled to do something that is out of the ordinary, like going up to hug someone who she doesn't know. She is being taught that even though that is a wonderful gift to have, she can't just walk up to complete strangers and hug them. Why? Because it is dangerous. We have had plenty of different talks on how to channel that gifting. I say this to share an example. I have other examples that involve my son, but for the purposes of keeping this short, you get the point.
God does not look at the outer appearance.
He looks at the heart. We nurture our kids with material things...food, water, clothing, toys, games, entertainment, you name it; but are we nurturing their spiritual walk with their Creator? Are we nurturing their heart? We are called to help them learn, and grow. How are we doing?